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As grandmas, we have our own set of truths we live by that no one else will understand or get to experience. It’s a secret club and an exclusive one that only the creme de la creme – those of us who get promoted to grandma, wink – get to join! Isn’t it grand to be a grandma?
While many of the stereotypes about being a grandma are factual, you will also find that there are some little-known truths that only grandmothers know, including:
1. If you look hard enough, you can find humor in just about anything
When I first had my kids, I took things too seriously, worried I would either mess them up or be judged by my parenting. The years and maturity have taught me that this was a complete waste of my time and sanity, as every dark cloud has its lining, and you can find humor in just about anything! (Believe me: This seemingly small revelation has made a massive difference in how I grandparent.)
2. You’re not old – just a piece of living history!
Some mornings, I wake up with more aches and pains than I went to sleep, leaving me feeling even more exhausted and, well, old. Then I remember that I’m not old – I have just lived a long and prosperous life that makes me more interesting and appreciative of the little things!
3. You will experience fear at strange times…
When I was a young mom, my greatest fear was something terrible happening to my kids, and now that I am a grandma, I occasionally feel that same pang of dread and worry. It’s hard not to feel it when you turn on the news and see the chaos of the world, but it is also important not to fret over it too much – especially when it is a hypothetical that only leads to anxiety and stress.
4. …But mostly happiness unlike you have ever known
If you’re a grandma, you get it, as the happiness of having grandkids is almost impossible to put into words. It’s rainbows and butterflies, kittens and puppies, and ice cream and candy, all rolled into one (and then some).
5. There is no pride quite like watching your child become a parent
It’s one thing to raise your kids, but it’s a different level of satisfaction and joy when you see them as parents. Watching your kids – your grandkids’ parents – navigate the ups and downs, make tough decisions, and grow is a precious insight into the life cycle and a gift that only comes when you’re a grandma.
6. Goodbyes sting
I never knew how bad goodbyes could hurt until I had grandkids. Yes, sending your kids off to college is tough, but knowing you won’t see your grandchild(ren) again for days, weeks, or months is heartbreaking and, arguably, the most challenging part of being a grandma.
7. The term “spoiler alert” takes on a whole new meaning
Remember when “spoiler alert” meant someone was about to reveal the end of a movie or a book? Well, that changes when you become a grandma, as it’s now synonymous with you spoiling your grandchildren with love, treats, and the occasional bending of the rules. Best part? It’s a no-guilt pleasure because spoiling is part of our job description.
8. The world is even more beautiful than you realized
Believe me, grandkids can make even the grumpiest grandma see the world through rose-colored glasses. They have a unique way of looking at things, unfiltered and innocent, and that perspective can be wonderfully contagious. Suddenly, you’re laughing at the silliest things, finding joy in mud pies, and re-discovering the magic of a ladybug’s flight.
9. Your heart can love more than you ever thought possible
You thought you knew all about love when you had your children. But grandkids? They bring a whole new depth to it! It’s a love that’s pure, unencumbered by the daily grind of parenting, and brimming with affection. It’s the kind of love that fills your heart to bursting and then some. (Insert your own cliche here because it’s true!)
Conclusion
There you have it, the exclusive club of grandmas – a mix of laughter, love, a little heartache, and a whole lot of joy. It’s a wild ride, but one we wouldn’t trade for anything. To all my fellow grandmas out there, let’s raise a cup of tea (or wine, I don’t judge) to this wonderful journey of grandparenting!
