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We all know someone we would deem as “difficult” or even “impossible,” whether they are stubborn, hurting, or just misunderstood. While some of these people may be acquaintances, others may be closer to us, like grandchildren.
Are seemingly complex grandchildren a lost cause?
Of course not – they need their grandmas just as much (if not more so) as anyone else!
It may seem impossible to connect with this – well, impossible – grandchild, but fear not, as I firmly believe these ten things will strengthen your bond more than you thought possible:
It’s always surprising how the simplest shared interests can bridge the largest generational gaps, whether it be a love for gardening, baking, chess, or even bird-watching. Get to know your grandkids’ hobbies and interests, and try to find some common ground. It may take a little time, but the result is a solid connection, blossoming from commonality. The bonus is that they’ll see you as someone who understands and appreciates what they love.
2. Engage in Storytelling
Our own lives are a treasure trove of stories, rich with experience and wisdom. Why not use these stories to connect on a deeper level? Use this time to share your life’s trials, triumphs, and lessons learned in a light-hearted manner. Remember, it’s not about lecturing but about sharing and showing them they’re not alone in their journey!
3. Master Their Technology
While technology can sometimes feel like it’s creating a divide between generations, it can also be a fantastic way to connect. Get familiar with the tech gadgets and social media platforms your grandchild loves. This doesn’t mean snooping on their privacy but rather keeping up with their digital world. Show interest in learning, and they might just be flattered to be your teacher 🙂
4. The Magic of Snail Mail
In our digital world, the charm of a handwritten letter or card is ever more enchanting. Send your grandchild postcards, letters, or small packages now and then for a special surprise that will bring warmth to their day and show them you’re thinking of them. In these letters, be sure to share little bits of your life and always express your love.
5. Create a Secret Handshake or Code Language
There’s something absolutely delightful about secret handshakes or languages, as it adds a sprinkle of mystery, mischief, and exclusivity that kids generally love! Creating this shared secret can be a bonding experience and a fun way to communicate, especially in a room full of people.
6. Regular Tradition
Establish a recurring date to do something together – perhaps a Sunday afternoon tea, a monthly movie night, or a baking Friday. Not only does this build your bond, but it helps to establish a rhythm in your relationship and gives your grandchild something consistent and comforting to look forward to.
7. Engage in Active Listening
Often, kids are yearning for someone to just listen to them – YOU can be that person, dear Grandma. Show sincere interest in their thoughts, ideas, dreams, and daily happenings, as it shows respect for their opinions and fosters a deep sense of connection. Also, remember, sometimes it’s less about solving their problems and more about empathizing with their feelings.
8. Leave Little Love Notes
Leave tiny notes of encouragement, love, and humor for your grandchild to find unexpectedly. Tuck it into their school bag, under their pillow, or in a book they’re reading. It’s a small gesture that goes a long way in making them feel special and cherished.
9. Connect with Nature Together
Nature offers a plethora of opportunities to bond, whether it be gardening, walking in a park, or even stargazing. It’s a quiet time to connect, away from the distractions of the digital world. Plus, it’s a great way to foster an appreciation for the natural world in them.
10. Learn Their Love Language
I have said it before, and I will say it again: Learning your grandchild’s love language is HUGE, as each of us feels loved and appreciated in different ways. Is it words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch? Once you understand how they perceive love, you can tailor your actions to make them feel truly loved and understood.
Conclusion
Connecting with a grandchild can be a grand adventure of its own, my fellow Devoted Grandma. Be sure to embark on it with patience, love, and lots of cookies. Oh, and as always, let’s talk again soon!
