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If there is one thing that is certain in life, it is that nothing is ever certain. Confusing (and stressful), right? We, as grandmas, have gone through many changes, both happy and sad, and now our grandkids are dealing with the same. While we wish we could shield them from the more challenging times, we can at least steer them in the right direction and support them through significant changes.
Thankfully, Grandma, you already have the tools and know-how you need to help your grands during these changes, including:
1. Great ears
Yes, your ears are physically appealing and look great with a pair of hoop earrings, but I am talking about your incredible listening skills. If your grands come to you as a soundboard or ask for advice, give them your full attention and listen to everything they say before sharing your thoughts and wisdom.
This one is pretty self-explanatory, as there is no better feeling in the world than a giant, comforting hug from your beloved grandma.
When you get to be our age, you have been there and done that and have lots of wisdom and advice to share because of it! Connect with your grandchild and help them out when you share stories about times you had to face a big life change head-on. It is an excellent way to bond and can offer insight into overcoming whatever they are currently going through.
4. Comfort foods
Okay, okay – maybe cookies can’t technically solve problems, but let’s face it – they sure make discussing them a lot more enjoyable! (And have they ever caused problems? I didn’t think so!) Remember those choco-chip cookies that made your kids’ blues vanish? Now may be the perfect time to dust off your recipe box and bake a few batches!
5. Nature escapades
Never underestimate the power of fresh air! A walk in the park or a stroll in your backyard can create the perfect ambiance for heart-to-heart conversations. Even better? Exercise and healthy movement release mood-boosting endorphins.
6. DIY therapy
Crafts aren’t just about making pretty things – They can be therapeutic, too! Dive into a DIY project together, whether knitting or making a birdhouse, as working with your hands can be distracting and cathartic.
7. Transport them to the past
You, Grandma, have been there and done that. Share your journey! It may be photo albums to you, but to them, it’s a trip to another era. Showing them how you’ve evolved through life can make the path ahead of them seem less daunting.
8. Movie or TV show marathon
Remember those classic films that got you through rough patches? (For me, it’s Annie Hall – how about you?) It’s time for a rerun. Movies offer a distraction and, sometimes, a fresh perspective (and, in the case of Annie Hall, a laugh or two).
9. Play the “What if?” game
Talk to your grands about any best-case or worst-case scenarios they may encounter. Sometimes, voicing fears (and the potential upsides) can shed light on the silver linings.
10. Dream and doodle
Dream and doodle: Think of it as the grandma-grandkid version of brainstorming! Grab a notebook and doodle or jot down hopes, dreams, and ways to tackle challenges. Isn’t it amazing what a little visual motivation can do?
11. Music to your ears
Tunes from your time might not be their go-to, but sharing songs that uplifted you can be another way to connect. Who knows, they might add them to their Spotify playlist!
Never underestimate the power of saying, “It’s going to be okay.” It’s a simple and often overused line, but coming from someone with as much life experience as you, it might just be the reassurance they need.
13. Spa day with grandma
Turn your home into a relaxation haven, a la facials, pedicures, and all things soothing. Sometimes, a little pampering can boost morale like nothing else. (If it’s in your budget, you can even look into going to a spa or salon for a lovely day out!)
14. Goal-setter gatherings
Chart out a plan or discuss goals – even if there isn’t an issue currently at hand. When life throws curveballs, sometimes having a game plan can make it easier to hit a home run.
15. Laughter is the best medicine
As cliche as it is, laughter truly is the best medicine. Share a joke, watch a comedy, or be goofy, as the endorphins from laughing are natural mood boosters.
No matter the method, your special touch and that twinkle in your eye, combined with years of sage wisdom, are surefire ways to guide your grandkids through the maze of life’s changes. They might not say it often, but your support is their anchor. Keep it up – you’re doing great!