How To Be The Hero Your Grandchildren Need When They’re Not Being Properly Cared For

As a fellow Devoted Grandma, you do not need me to tell you that there are times in grandparenting that are difficult or uncomfortable thanks to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and other factors. One of these latter factors is one that we hope we will never encounter but should always be prepared for in case it should happen to us, which is our grandchildren not being properly cared for by their parents or guardian. 

We live in an imperfect world, and there are times when we all make mistakes. However, this never justifies the mistreatment of a child. Even if you do not have proof and are just beginning to gather evidence, there are things you can do to ensure your grandchild’s safety.

While I hope this is something you never have to worry about, I wanted to share the steps that you can take to ensure the safety of your grandchildren and be the hero they need should they not be properly cared for: 

1. Gather information

Observe the child’s behavior, appearance, and living conditions. Take note of any changes or signs that may indicate neglect or abuse, such as poor hygiene, unexplained injuries, or changes in behavior. Other symptoms of neglect or abuse may include behavioral issues, seclusion, poor performance at school, frequent absences, and/or unexplained bedwetting.

2. Communicate with the parents

Talk to the child’s parents and express your concerns in a non-confrontational manner. Ask questions and listen to their explanations. It’s possible that there could be a misunderstanding or that the parents are unaware of specific issues.

3. Offer support

If you identify specific areas where the parents may be struggling, offer your help and support. This could include assistance with childcare, providing resources, or sharing parenting advice. It is important to express empathy and a desire to help, especially when you are trying to keep your lines of communication open.

4. Document your concerns

Record any incidents, conversations, or observations supporting your concerns. The documentation may be for not but could be necessary if you need to involve authorities later.

5. Seek guidance

Consult with professionals, such as pediatricians, therapists, or social workers, for advice on the best course of action. They can guide you on how to address your concerns and help determine if you need any more intervention.

6. Report suspected abuse or neglect

If you believe the child is in immediate danger or experiencing abuse or neglect, you should report your concerns to your local child protective services agency or law enforcement. Remember that you don’t need to have definitive proof; it’s the responsibility of the authorities to investigate and determine the appropriate action.

7. Stay involved

Maintain a close relationship with your grandchild and continue to monitor their well-being. Your ongoing support can make a significant difference in their life.

Resources

If you are in this seemingly impossible situation, remember that you are not alone and have many people who can walk alongside and support you. Here are a few of these resources that can offer you more help and advice:

• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
• The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
• Childhelp
• Child Welfare Information Gateway
• National Child Abuse Coalition

Conclusion

Remember that every situation is unique, and the appropriate response may vary depending on the specific circumstances. Trust your instincts and prioritize the child’s safety and well-being above all else.

This is not a situation that any grandparent wants to be in, much less see their beloved grandchild in. Remember that you are not alone and that it is vital to intervene if you see or suspect anything. If you need more help, please don’t hesitate to reach out! 

Thank you, Devoted Grandma, for being a safe haven for your grandkids.