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Do you ever struggle to get your grandkids to open up and really talk to you? I know I have, especially as they get older and more involved in their own little worlds. But fear not, because I’ve got some tricks up my sleeve that I’m excited to share with you today!
Getting our grandkids to engage in meaningful conversations not only strengthens our bond with them but also helps us understand their thoughts, feelings, and experiences better. So, without further ado, let’s dive into these 14 sneaky ways to get your grandkids talking!
1. Ask open-ended questions
Instead of asking questions that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no,” try asking open-ended questions that encourage them to elaborate. For example, instead of asking, “Did you have a good day at school?” try, “What was the most interesting thing you learned at school today?”
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Kids love hearing stories about when their parents and grandparents were young. Share some of your own childhood experiences, and watch as they open up about their own lives in return.
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3. Play “Would You Rather”
This classic game is a great way to get your grandkids talking and laughing. Ask them silly questions like, “Would you rather have spaghetti for hair or meatballs for feet?” You’ll be surprised at how much they’ll share!
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4. Have a “no electronics” day
Plan a day filled with activities that don’t involve screens, such as a picnic, a trip to the park, or a board game marathon. Without the distraction of electronics, your grandkids will be more likely to engage in conversation.
5. Cook together
Cooking is a great bonding activity that also encourages conversation. Ask your grandkids to help you prepare a family recipe, and chat about the memories associated with the dish.
6. Create a secret handshake
Having a secret handshake with your grandkids is not only fun but also creates a special bond between you. Plus, it’s a great conversation starter!
7. Have a “Grandma and Me” journal
Give your grandchild a special journal where you can write messages back and forth to each other. This is a great way to encourage them to share their thoughts and feelings in a safe, private space.
8. Go on a “listening walk”
Take a walk together and challenge your grandkids to point out all the sounds they hear. This activity encourages them to be present and observant, and can lead to some great conversations.
9. Play “Two Truths and a Lie”
In this game, each person shares three statements about themselves, two of which are true and one of which is a lie. The other players have to guess which statement is the lie. This game is a fun way to learn new things about each other!
10. Have a “Grandma and Me” date
Plan a special outing for just you and your grandchild, whether it’s going out for ice cream, seeing a movie, or visiting a museum. Having one-on-one time together can encourage them to open up more.
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11. Start a family book club
Choose a book to read together with your grandkids, and set aside time to discuss it. This not only encourages a love of reading but also provides an opportunity for meaningful conversations.
12. Ask for their advice
Kids love feeling like their opinions matter. Ask for their advice on something, whether it’s what to make for dinner or how to resolve a problem you’re facing. They’ll feel valued and be more likely to share their own thoughts and experiences.
13. Have a “show and tell” day
Invite your grandkids to bring something special to share with you, whether it’s a favorite toy, a piece of artwork, or a photo. This activity can lead to some great conversations and help you learn more about their interests.
14. Practice active listening
When your grandkids do open up to you, make sure to practice active listening. Put away any distractions, make eye contact, and show genuine interest in what they’re saying. Reflect back on what you’ve heard to show that you understand, and ask follow-up questions to keep the conversation going.
Remember, my fellow Grandmas, building strong relationships with our grandkids takes time and effort. But by using these sneaky tactics, we can create a safe and loving space where they feel comfortable sharing their thoughts, feelings, and experiences with us. Happy bonding!
