Last month, there was big news about the government planning a social media ban for kids. They haven’t decided on a specific age just yet, but most of the talk has been about teenagers. However, we should be thinking about the younger ones, too. According to a recent report, about 22% of children between the ages of eight and ten, and nearly half of those aged 11 to 13, are already on social media. So, it’s clear that this is something parents—and grandparents like me—have a hand in.
It’s no surprise that our kids are online at younger and younger ages these days. Schools, community groups, and even churches use platforms like Facebook and Instagram to share updates and pictures. But social media can be a tricky place for kids. My daughter, who has three school-aged kids herself, and I were talking about how hard it is to balance letting kids learn about technology with keeping them safe. It’s a balancing act, for sure, but there are ways we can help.
Here are a few things I’ve learned that might be helpful:
- Know What Apps They’re Using
Social media isn’t just about the big names like TikTok and Instagram; even little ones can be using things like Messenger Kids or scrolling through YouTube videos on a shared family account. Social media can be a great way for kids to learn and connect, but it’s a new world for them. Spending time with them online can help open up conversations about what they’re seeing and doing. I’ve found that even watching a silly video together can be an opportunity to talk about things like privacy or the tricks apps use to keep them scrolling.As a family, you can also set some ground rules, like no phones in the bedroom or at the dinner table. Those little habits can make a big difference. - Be a Good Example
We all know kids watch everything we do—more than we sometimes realize! If we’re always glued to our phones, it sends them a message. I’ve made a point to put my phone away when I’m spending time with my grandkids and to keep it out of sight when I’m having a meal with them.There’s also a lot to be said for respecting their privacy. Before I share a picture or story about my grandkids, I ask their parents, and sometimes even them, for permission. That way, they learn early on about boundaries and consent, especially when it comes to the digital world. - Stay Informed on Social Media Risks
It’s no secret that social media has its share of risks, from privacy concerns to the types of content that can pop up unexpectedly. Understanding how these apps work can help us talk to our kids about safety. I’ve signed up for a newsletter from the eSafety Commissioner that shares helpful tips and information about online safety. Resources like that make it easier for us to stay a step ahead and talk to our kids and grandkids about what they should look out for. - Push for Better Online Safety
We may be “old-school,” but that doesn’t mean we can’t have a say in what’s best for our grandkids. I was pleased to hear that the government is looking into holding social media companies accountable for creating safer spaces for kids. I know I’m not alone in hoping these platforms can be more protective of our young ones by default.I think it’s time we all start talking about what kind of digital world we want our kids to grow up in. A “Children’s Internet,” where privacy and safety come first, isn’t just a dream; it’s something we can work toward. When we advocate for our grandkids, we’re helping to make a safer, kinder online world for them.
By getting involved and talking with our families, we can play a part in shaping a healthier online experience for our grandkids. Social media may be here to stay, but with a little guidance, we can help our little ones grow up knowing how to handle it safely. And that gives this grandma a lot of peace of mind.