From one loving grandma to another
Let’s face it, my dear—times have changed. These days, we grandmothers often have to compete with phones, games, videos, and busy schedules just to get a “hi” from our grandkids. And while we’d never want to force a conversation, there’s a part of us that longs for those moments when they just open up, laugh with us, or simply don’t want to hang up.
The good news is, we don’t need fancy apps or perfect timing to get closer. Often, it’s the simplest little things we do that make them want to talk to us longer—and come back more often for another chat.
Here are 12 simple and heartwarming ways to make your grandkids want to linger in conversation with you, whether it’s by phone, video call, text, or in person.
1. Ask Thoughtful, Story-Starting Questions
Instead of the usual, “How’s school?” or “How was your day?”—which they might answer with “fine” and nothing more—try questions that invite a story.
- “What was the funniest thing that happened to you this week?”
- “If you could switch places with anyone in your class for a day, who would it be and why?”
- “What’s the most random thing someone said to you this week?”
These kinds of questions let them explore and express themselves freely, and you’ll find the answers take you both down delightful little trails.
2. Reach Out With a Real Reason
It’s sweet to say “just checking in,” but sometimes it doesn’t hook their interest. Try beginning the conversation with something they’ll want to respond to:
- “Guess what I found—your dad’s 5th grade report card! Want to hear the grades?”
- “I’m trying to understand this TikTok thing. Want to explain it to me?”
- “I saw someone wearing shoes like yours today and it made me smile.”
Suddenly, the call becomes less of a check-up and more of a two-way exchange.
3. Mirror Their Energy and Humor
If they’re using gifs, emojis, or funny slang in texts, go ahead and play along—even if you don’t get it exactly right. That effort shows them that you’re not just trying to connect—you’re enjoying it.
For example:
You: “Just tried an energy drink and now I’m convinced I can run to the moon. Is this what being young feels like?”
They’ll laugh, and maybe even keep the conversation going just to hear what you’ll say next.
4. Be Curious About What THEY Love
You don’t have to understand every detail of their favorite band or video game—but showing interest in what matters to them is gold.
Try saying:
- “Can you send me a photo of something you’re really proud of this week?”
- “I heard people are excited about a new movie—are you?”
- “Tell me why you like that YouTuber so much. I’m curious.”
Let them teach you a thing or two, and you’ll become someone they want to talk to, not just someone they should talk to.
5. Send Voice Notes With Love (and Laughter)
In a world of screens, your voice still has a magic no phone can match. A short voice message can go a long way:
- “Just wanted to say I love you and I’m proud of you.”
- “I baked cookies today and thought of how you always eat the dough when I’m not looking!”
Even if they don’t respond right away, these little messages stick with them.
6. Don’t Be Too Quick to End the Conversation
We often say things like, “I’ll let you go now,” or “You must be busy,” because we don’t want to be a bother—but sometimes, they were just getting warmed up.
Pause. Let silence linger for a second. You might just hear them say,
“Wait—before you go…”
Sometimes the best part of the conversation happens right after we would’ve hung up.
7. Share Little Bits of Your Own Life
Your grandchild may not ask what you had for lunch or what you’re reading, but sharing those small parts of your day gives them a warm peek into your world.
- “I started a puzzle today and I think I’m already missing a piece. Typical grandma luck!”
- “Do you want to hear about the time I tried to ride a bike with a basket full of eggs?”
Don’t be surprised if they come back later asking for more stories.
8. Create Little Weekly Traditions
Give them something to look forward to from you—even if it’s tiny.
- Monday: Silly joke
- Wednesday: “Guess what I cooked?”
- Friday: One-sentence life advice
- Sunday: A photo from your week
Routine doesn’t have to be boring. It can become a comforting habit that draws them in.
9. Celebrate Their Small Wins
Even the smallest things matter when they’re shared with someone who cares.
- “You got a C last time and now it’s a B+? That’s amazing! You’re improving so much!”
- “You remembered to do your laundry? High five!”
Celebrating the little victories makes them feel seen—and who doesn’t love talking to someone who cheers them on?
10. Lead With Laughter, Not Lectures
It’s easy to slip into advice-giving mode (it’s part of our nature!) but humor keeps the mood light and engaging.
Instead of,
“Don’t stay up too late.”
Try,
“I stayed up past 10pm. Grandma’s gone wild!”
A little laughter now can pave the way for a deeper talk later.
11. Let Them Be the Expert
Asking for help is one of the quickest ways to make your grandchild feel smart, valued, and helpful.
- “Can you show me how to use these funny stickers on my phone?”
- “I heard about this thing called Discord. Should I be afraid?”
They’ll probably start explaining—and maybe stick around while they do it.
12. End Every Chat With Love and Thanks
No matter how long or short the conversation is, make sure they know just how much it meant to you:
- “I always feel so good after we talk.”
- “You really made my day. I’m going to go smile at everyone now.”
Sincere appreciation keeps the door open for the next time.
A Gentle Reminder From One Grandma to Another
Our grandkids are growing up in a world that’s loud, fast, and full of pressure. When they talk to us, they’re reaching for something calm, kind, and grounding. We don’t have to be perfect or know all the trends. We just have to show up with love, warmth, and a little bit of fun.
So the next time you text, call, or visit, try one of these gentle tips. And when they do talk longer, laugh more, or come back the next day to tell you something new—you’ll know your little effort made a big difference.
Because at the heart of it all, being the grandma they want to talk to just means being the one who listens with her whole heart.