20 Easy Tips For Grandmas To Connect With Their Teenage Grandkids

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Do you remember when your children were teens (or when YOU were a teenager) and all of the angst and drama that went along with those difficult years? If you are reading this, it may mean the time has come that your sweet grandchild is now going through the aches and pains of adolescence.

I know how challenging it can be to deal with a moody teen grandchild. Sometimes it can feel like they don’t want to spend any time with you at all. However, it’s important to remember that this is a normal part of growing up, and there are many ways to bridge the gap and connect with your grandchild.

In this list, I’ve compiled some tips for dealing with a moody teen and getting them to spend time with you. From showing interest in their hobbies to celebrating their achievements, these tips can help you build a stronger relationship with your grandchild and create lasting memories together.

1. Listen Actively

Give your teen grandchild your full attention and listen to what they have to say. Make eye contact, ask questions, and engage with what they’re telling you. This can help them feel heard and valued, which can strengthen your relationship and make them more likely to spend time with you.

2. Show Interest in Their Hobbies and Passions

A day at the ballpark
Flickr/Ken Mattison

Take an interest in your teen grandchild’s hobbies and passions. Ask them about what they enjoy doing and offer to participate with them, which can build a connection and show that you care about their interests.

3. Plan Activities Together

Plan activities with your teen grandchild that you both enjoy, like watching a movie or trying a new restaurant. By spending time together (even if you are doing the simplest of things), you can create positive memories and strengthen your bond.

4. Respect Their Boundaries

Respect your teen grandchild’s boundaries and give them space when they need it. Let them come to you when they’re ready to talk or hang out and avoid pressuring them to spend time with you when they’re not in the mood.

5. Share Your Own Stories and Experiences

Grandma with her coffee cup

Share stories and experiences from your own life with your teen grandchild. You’ve been there, so your stories may help them learn more about you, and help them gain perspective on their own issues.

6. Be Supportive

Be there for your teen grandchild when they need you. Offer emotional support and be a listening ear when they’re going through a tough time. Doing this will make them feel more comfortable opening up to you and may increase the likelihood of them wanting to spend time with you.

7. Avoid Criticizing Them

Avoid criticizing your teen grandchild, as this can damage your relationship and make them less likely to want to spend time with you. Instead, offer constructive feedback and praise them for their accomplishments.

8. Use Humor

Grandmother and grandson
Flickr/Bev Sykes

Using humor can be a great way to connect with your teen grandchild and lighten the mood. Sharing funny stories or jokes can help break down barriers and make spending time together more enjoyable.

9. Show Them You Care

Show your teen grandchild that you care about them by doing small things like leaving them a note, sending a text message, or taking them out for a favorite meal. These gestures can help strengthen your bond and make them more likely to want to spend time with you.

10. Be Patient and Understanding

Dealing with moody teens can be challenging, but it’s important to be patient and understanding. Remember that they’re going through a lot of changes and that their moodiness is often a result of these changes. By being patient and empathetic, you can build a stronger relationship with your teen grandchild.

11. Create a Safe Space

Relaxing reading lounge

Create a safe space where your teen grandchild can feel comfortable and relaxed. This could be a cozy corner in your home where they can read or listen to music, or it could be a place outside where you both can sit and talk. When you create a safe space, your teen grandchild will feel more at ease and be more willing to spend time with you.

12. Offer to Help

Offer to help your teen grandchild with something they’re struggling with. It could be a school project, a job application, or anything else they need help with. When you offer your assistance, you’re showing them that you care and are willing to support them.

13. Avoid Lecturing

Instead of lecturing your teen grandchild about their behavior or choices, offer guidance and ask open-ended questions. While listening, you can encourage them to open up and share their thoughts and feelings with you, which, in turn, can help strengthen your relationship and show your grandchild that you care about their well-being.

14. Be Available

Grandma on the phone while petting the dog

Make yourself available to your teen grandchild, even if it’s just for a quick chat. Let them know that you are there for them if they need someone to talk to.

15. Show Interest in Their Friends

Show interest in your grandchild’s friends and encourage them to invite them over to your home. By showing that you’re interested in their social life, you can strengthen your relationship with them and help them feel valued.

16. Be Flexible

Be flexible and willing to adjust your plans to accommodate your teen grandchild’s schedule. Doing this will help them feel valued and appreciated and make them more willing to spend time with you.

17. Respect Their Privacy

The word "privacy" spelled out in scrabble blocks
Flickr/Owen Moore

Respect your teen grandchild’s privacy and personal space. Avoid prying or snooping and allow them to have their own space to relax and unwind.

18. Set Boundaries

Set clear boundaries and expectations for your relationship with your teen grandchild, which will help avoid misunderstandings and conflicts and promote healthy communication.

19. Celebrate Their Achievements

Celebrate your grandchild’s achievements, no matter how small. When you do this, you can help boost their self-esteem and make them feel valued and appreciated.

20. Share in Their Passions

Happy grandma hugs and congratulates runner
Flickr/HA! Designs – Artbyheather

If your teen grandchild has a passion for something, take an interest in it and share in their enthusiasm. This can help you build a connection with them and show that you support their interests.

Dealing with a moody teen grandchild can be challenging, but it’s important to remember that they are going through a period of change and growth. By actively listening, showing interest in their passions, and creating a safe space for them, you can help strengthen your relationship and create positive memories that both of you will treasure. With these tips in mind, you, too, can build a strong and positive relationship with your teen grandchild that will last a lifetime! 🙂

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