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I used to think birthdays were only special if someone else remembered them.
For the longest time, I’d wait for the phone to ring or the mailbox to hold a card. Some years it came. Others, not so much. This year, on the morning I turned 73, I stood in my kitchen in Muncie, Indiana, staring at a dusty box of yellow cake mix I’d bought sometime last spring. I figured if no one else was going to make a fuss, I could.
I took out the eggs, measured the oil, and stirred like I was doing it for company. While it baked, I turned on the old cassette player that still worked when it felt like it. I danced a little to Patsy Cline in my house slippers, which made me laugh because I haven’t really danced since my late husband, Warren, passed in 2015. The dog barked at me like I’d lost my mind.
I pulled out the cake and let it cool. I frosted it with lemon icing and even stuck a single candle in the middle. I sat down at the kitchen table, lit the candle, and sang “Happy Birthday” to myself. Out loud. It wasn’t sad. Not even close. It felt like claiming something that had been mine all along—my life, my day, my story.
Later that afternoon, my neighbor Joyce knocked on the door to borrow a wrench. She saw the half-eaten cake and laughed. “You have a party?” she asked.
“No,” I said. “Just me this time.”
She ended up staying for a slice, and we talked about her grandson’s soccer game and how the corn prices were holding steady. Just regular talk. But before she left, she gave me a look and said, “You know, that’s kind of wonderful.”
And it was. I didn’t need applause, or flowers, or a dozen phone calls. Just a little cake, some old music, and the simple act of treating myself like I mattered.
Because I do.
And so do you.
